Do you ever wish that your loved one in nursing home would die?

[Big J]

When I go see my mom and she is in so much pain....she has not been doing well at all lately.  Sometimes I just think it would be easier if she just passed away.  Does anyone else ever feel this way?

[Bill B]

I know exactly how you feel.  I wen to visit my mom today and she was depressed and pretty weak.  It was a tough visit and she did not want me to leave.  When I look at her just laying in the bed it just tears me up inside.  My mom is in her early 60's so it is really hard for me to see her in this shape.  I pray every day that God would let her pass away peacefully so she would no longer be in pain.  I will keep you in my thoughts.

[Big J]

I'm going to visit my mom tomorrow.  I hope sshe is doing better than the last time I was there.  she was very confused and was not drinking any water.

[smittyjones11]

I know exactly how you feel.  They have my mom on so many meds that I sometimes they are taking care of her "too well" it that makes any sense.  Some days I feel like this and some days I don't.  I am really conflicted about it.  I pray about it alot.

[Big J]

I went to visit my mom today and she was not doing well.  She was extremely confused and was very twisted in the bed.  She was unable to complete sentences and she faded in and out.  It's days like today that I wish she would die so that she would finally be out of her misery.  She has had MS almost 30 years now and it so hard to see her in this worsening state.  I find myself almost looking forward to the day that she passes away so that she will no longer be in this condition.  I lover her very much and I'm sure my thoughts on this will seem inconceivable to someone unless they have lived through this.  It also makes me sad to think about how lonely she must be now that my dad passed away.

[Big J]

Good news.  My mom has been doing really well lately.  The last few visits have been great and we have had great conversations and my mom was in a really good mood.  I hope she continues to do well.  I know that I have to savor these moments while they last and make the best of it. 

During this time I have increased my visits since I have no idea how long this will last.  This is such a blessing.

[Big J]

That's a good news and I hope your mom will be ok. My father died last 2 years in the hospital because of diabetes and m grandmother is in the hospital for the fifth time this year and my significant other just left me. I know I am being hard to deal with right now because of all of this and I can see myself being depressed and probably annoying to other people but I can't seem to bring myself out of it. I've tried counselors and talking to my brother but he's going through the same thing and has even more stress to deal with than I do. I can only have fun when I go out with a group of people and drink unfortunately, although I definitely don't have a drinking problem It's definitely something I turn to right now.I am sending this out into the internet because typing it just makes me feel better.

miyakayu - I know exactly how you feel and I have often turned to alcohol to help me get through the rough patches.  I sometimes feel like when it rains it pours.  My mom was admitted to a nursing home in May 2007 and then my Dad passed away in July 2007.  I am an only child so the burden was almost too much for me to bear and I had to also seek counseling .

I know alcohol is not a long term solution but it helps for the short term and I definitely drink more now then before everything went south.  I went to visit my mom today and she told me she was tired of fighting and that she is ready to die.  I am very conflicted because I know she is in alot of pain, and she recently hurt her leg which is making matters worse.  But if she were to die I would be so upset and I would also feel so guilty for sometimes wishing that she would pass away.